Friday, October 20, 2006


So we had a mutual agreement for me to leave my job. Those of you that have been reading for awhile now will recall that I can't stand my job, I usually don't have anything to do and I've been contemplating leaving for awhile now. Bossman hasn't been happy with me for awhile now either. I haven't really written about him because, well, I was still working there. Now I don't give a flying fuck about it.

Bossman is a real pain in the ass. He's pretty critical and since he had gotten it into his head that I couldn't do the job he would find anything he could to bitch about. In the 5 1/2 months I've been there I've learned that every girl that's been in my position has either left or been fired in less then a year and it's all because of him. Most girls have quit. I would have too if not for the fact that I didn't have another job to go to, I wanted to be able to stay at least a year so I wouldn't have a few months on my resume, I wanted to give it a true try and most of all I didn't want to leave my two coworkers in the lurch. I amended the few months thing, I decided I'd hang on through the holidays, that is if I could put up with him that long or he didn't let me go.

Yesterday just before 3 he called me into his office. Said this was really hard, he didn't really want to do it, would be easier if I were a bitch. That way he could just hand me my check and send me on my way. Said he liked me, everyone there liked me, I was a good person and repeated that he really didn't want to do it but thought it best. I told him I'd been seriously thinking about leaving myself for the past couple of months. I told him I knew he wasn't happy with me which in turn made me not happy which of course would affect my performance. So he said let's make it a mutual agreement. The good think is is that I can collect unemployment if I need to because he won't contest it. But I'm hoping not to have to do that.

He did say he didn't think I could handle the job though, I sort of scoffed and said that it wasn't that I couldn't handle the job, it's that it's a different kind of construction I'm used to. I've been in the general contractor commercial building business since Sept. 1992. I've been the office manager of two companies, I can handle the job. I didn't say that I was actually over qualified to do it but I should have. The real estate developer construction business is completely different than what I had been doing. It's completely different contracts, verbiage, forms, etc. that I had to deal with previously. So I of course had to learn all of this, plus learn how this office works and how he personally works. He figured I, and every other girl that's ever been there, should either just know this stuff or if we're told once that should be it, from then on there shouldn't be any problems.

As many people know, if you never get praise only get negativity then you're more likely to make mistakes. My "mistakes" were not huge. Nothing I did or didn't do caused problems. Contracts still got done, payments still got paid. I actually only made a few true mistakes, and when I did I admitted them, owned up, made my apologies. He didn't seem to really care.

At one point I was even accused of keeping secrets. I laughed when I was told that. It was because I didn't tell bossman or bossman 2 everything I was doing. If I was asked to make a phone call to get some information if I didn't immediately go and tell which ever one had asked me to make the call then I was keeping a secret. If they had given me a letter or anything really, to type up, if I didn't bring it in right away for them to see then I was keeping a secret. It was unreal.

So I smiled through our meeting, shook his hand and thanked him for the opportunity and said I wanted to finish what I had been working on when he called me in. I went back to my desk and resumed working. He came out a couple minutes later and said I didn't have to stay and finish but I said I was ok with it, that I didn't want to stick J or M with having to finish it up, that it wasn't fair to them.

He left about 15 minutes later. His son was still there though so we girls got together at the front of the office to talk. M had no idea it was happening until as bossman was leaving he told her I wouldn't be back. J is the comptroller so she knew when he went in to ask her to make up my check. But couldn't tell me or M because she said she would've cried. She was starting to tear up as she was saying that. Plus, it wasn't her place to tell me, she said he wanted her to do it or at least be in the meeting with him. She told him that if he really wanted to do it, if he was going through with it then he had to do it himself. He hired me, he'd have to let me go.

I said to the girls that hopefully the new girl (and there is one, she's starting Mon.) had experience in the real estate development business. J said that she didn't and that she didn't even have as much as I did in general. She said she didn't see this girl working there as long as I did even. She was actually surprised I stayed as long as I did. I told her one of the biggest reasons was because I didn't want to screw her over. She's the one that would have to do the work. She told me I was nuts for staying for her but she was grateful.

Any way, I'm outta there and the only thing that's sad about it is that I don't have another job right now but I'm not gonna be sitting on my ass for long.

I know I've used this before but I'm using again anyway:

Media quote of the day: Take this job and shove it/I ain't workin' here no more - Johnny Paycheck, lyrics by David Allen Coe


Anonymous said...

You're handling it well Kat, definitely! You'll find something before you know it! It sounds like they want to micromanage everyone. It sucks to be over-qualified, cause if you turn your work in too quickly, you come off as not having enough to do.

Katrina said...

Thanks, yeah I'm doing fine it's HD that's really worried.

But I'm definitely a happier person already for being out of there.

I'm looking through the paper and online and have a few places I'll be sending my resume to. But I think I'll probably go through an agency too, we'll see.

He definitely wanted to micromanage and I'm just not used to that. For over 10 years I was able to do my work without having to show everything to my bosses and at this place that just wasn't possible. Everything had to go through them and if I so much as missed crossing a T then bossman would say something. Not in a, "hey you missed the t." But in a, "you need to quit making these kinds of mistakes." way. It was unreal.

Anyway, like I said, I'm a happier person for it.

Thanks again.

dirk.mancuso said...

You are definitely hadling it well. I'd be all pissy and stuff (you know how I get).

Good luck with the job search -- I'm sure something will turn up soon.

Katrina said...

Thanks Dirk.

Yeah, I've sat on my ass the last couple of days just to veg. Well, I have looked at a few job listings online but that's it. So I guess today I'll call an agency and make an appointment and get the ball rolling.

I'm just sooo relieved to be out of there, as I said, I'm definitely a happier person now.