So I haven't been doing much lately. Taking my time looking for a new job. Well, looking is what I've been doing along with not sending my resume to any of them. Ha! But I've done some shopping that needed doing. I've watched and gotten rid of the Ellen's that needed watching and getting rid of.
Today I finally, after over a year, went and changed my social security card and driver's license to my married name. I'm the queen of procrastination. I still haven't sent out my thank you cards for all the gifts we received. Miss Manners and my mom are ready to ream me a new one. But H Ditty will be happy to learn I've finally done the name change thing. I had debated keeping my maiden name after we got married but decided I'd go ahead and switch it. When I got married the first time I never did the name change with the documents. I mean, I changed my credit cards, bank, pay checks, etc. just never my license or SS card. After we got divorced I was happy I didn't do it since all those other things are easier to change than the license and SS card.
You know what is fucked up? When you get divorced your husband has to give his permission for you take your maiden name back. I couldn't fucking believe that when I saw it on the papers. The line went something like: I ____________ hereby agree that ___________ can revert back to her maiden name of _______. That is just fucked up.
But I don't see that happening with H Ditty. The getting divorced thing that is.
It's going to be weird though going by a different last name. I mean, I've been this name for 34 years. It's just who I am. At the DMV when they called out my name to go take my picture and then after to go pick up the license I said to myself that it just isn't right. That's not my name. But it is and I will get used to it and it will make my honey very happy and that's what's important.
EDIT: Awww, he's so cute. When I told him I'd changed my name he got a cute grin on his face and hugged me and says, "You mean I've got a wife now?" He was about as happy as I figured he'd be.
Media quote of the day: "What's in a name? That which we call a rose By any other word would smell as sweet."
--From Romeo and Juliet (II, ii, 1-2) - Shakespeare
6 comments:
I've been twice to try and change my name and couldn't get it done. They didn't like any of the paperwork I took: birth certificate, drivers license, marriage license, old SS card. I cussed and raised hell like a the backwoods redneck I am. I probably should wait awhile to go again.
What did you take with you?
Wow, all I had to take was my marriage and driver's license. For both places. And my old SS card at their office. I had my birth certificate but they never asked for it.
I went to the SS office first and when I told the lady I hadn't changed my license yet she said that was fine, more than likely they wouldn't have let me change it anyway without the SS being changed.
At the DMV I only had a letter from the SS office since the card won't be in for awhile yet and they didn't have a problem with it at all.
I got in and out in less than a 1/2 hour at both places. What took the longest was the waiting around not the processing.
I went on line to find out exactly what I'd need for the SS office and printed out the form at home. Has anyone told you what you would need specifically and why what you have isn't good enough?
Name changing sounds like a big pain in the butt. I am not looking forward to having it done. Not that it will happen anytime soon or anything like that.
Yeah, it can be, I got lucky I think.
Now I have to go about changing it with all the bills and my bank. Ugh!
Men have it easy. :)
That is weird about the ex's permission to revert back. In Alabama, they would not let me DROP my maiden name off of the DL. I just had to add my new last name, and now I have this really long name on my DL that doesn't match my "legal" name.
Really? Now that's weird to me.
I'm glad they gave me back my license with my maiden name. There's been a few times companies have wanted two forms of a picture ID and I didn't have one so now I do.
Yeah, it floored me when I saw that line on my divorce papers. I find it hard to believe that there'd be very many men out there that wouldn't want their ex to take back their maiden name. If we had kids that'd be different but since we didn't I didn't want to keep his name.
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